bykStyle | V-Day Look + 4 Ways To Show Love To Yourself

Written by: Sol

It’s Valentine’s Day!

So that must mean that this day is dedicated for couples only, right? WRONG! Don’t be one of THOSE folk who get so caught up in the haze of “Love” day that they forget the most important love story of all: The one you write with yourself.


Shirt: Old Navy

Skirt: Torrid

Shoes: Ashley Stewart 

The beauty of your self-love story is that whether you are with a mate or not, you should do your best to stay focused on this relationship the most. It’s in this relationship that you get to love and embrace yourself for who you are. It’s in this relationship that you explore your great qualities. It’s in this relationship that discover strengths and work to overcome weaknesses. It’s in this relationship that you find genuine happiness.


Top – Dots Fashion {R.I.P. *single tear*}

Skirt – Thrifted

Shades – Versona

I get it – Between the spouse, work, the kids, other family, and life’s obligations it can be difficult to give this relationship the time that it needs to flourish and grow. But what if I told you that all it takes is an hour of your day {and not a lot of money!} for a little self-focused quality time? No really – YOU CAN DO IT!

Here are four things you can do to make every day feel like Valentine’s Day:

  • Happy Hour! – What girl doesn’t enjoy a little Happy Hour? Nothing says “love” like enjoying your favorite libation after a hard day’s work! Some restaurants have gotten hip to the fact that everybody’s not a drinker {Like me!} so they even offer “Happy Hour” prices on their appetizers, and sometimes, entrees! What girl doesn’t want her spinach and artichoke dip for the low-low? I know I do! 🙂
  • Get Your Sexy On! – If anyone told you that you needed a mate to have sexy lingerie, then they’ve told you wrong! It’s a common misconception that lingerie is only meant for couples or that “special time of fellowship”, but the truth is, lingerie can be worn anytime a girl wants to turn up her sexy! Check out sites like Hips & Curves for beautiful plus size lingerie and even Lane Bryant has stepped up their sexy sleepwear game.  There’s just something about satin and lace under your clothes that add a little sass to your step!
  • Shop! Shop! Shop! – I think this one is self-explanatory. No matter what ANYONE says, retail therapy is always welcomed in ANY relationship! 🙂 Whether it’s a stop-by at your favorite retail store or a quick trip to your favorite thrift store or boutique, picking up a little something for yourself always warms the heart. And if it’s on sale – DOUBLE WINNING!

And while we’re on the topic of shopping, let’s take a quick #bykStyle moment, shall we?










At the end of the day, one of our life’s goal should be to fall madly, deeply, and completely in love with ourselves FIRST! When this happens, we eliminate the pressures of having to “perform” at unrealistic levels or wearing masks of happiness. We begin to operate in the authenticity of who we are and love ourselves to a place where acceptance from others is no longer warranted or needed. Like the DC song says “Ain’t No Feeling Like Being FREE!!

So, the next time you want to feel special, don’t look to anyone else to do it. Take some time out of your day to show YOURSELF some love! In the immortal words of Muva Ru, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love anyone else?!” 

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Until the next time, live F.A.B with no regrets!



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