bykStyle | 3 Life & Style Lessons I Learned From My Mom

Written by: Sol

Mother’s Day is upon us! Can you believe it?!

It’s super cool to set a day aside to honor and cherish those who gave birth to us and shower her with love, gifts and all that jazz. Though I don’t usually “celebrate” Mother’s Day, because we celebrate all year, I do love to see all of the “I love you, Mom” posts, blogs, and pictures that flood my timeline. I ain’t gonna lie… it tugs at a thug’s heart a little bit… 

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I’m so blessed to be one who still has my mom with me today. Like most mom/daughter combos, my mom and I have had our ups and downs in our relationship, mostly because we are SO much alike! But over the years, I have grown to know that my mom is a woman full of love and wisdom and if I would have just LISTENED to her, I would have saved myself a ton of heartache and drama… *heavy sigh* But I digress!

It’s dope when people ask me questions like “Where do you get your sense of style?” “How did you find your love for fashion?” My answer is always this: I come from a lineage of stylish men & women. From my maternal grandmother, my  mother, aunt, and even my uncle, I have always been raised in the company of style and originality.  Out of the four, my mom stands out the most. My sister and I used to tease her about how long it took for her to get ready, but now that I’m older, let’s just say the apple don’t fall far from the tree. 🙂

Here are 3 (of many!) lessons she’s  taught me about style:

Never Compromise Comfort For Cute. 

I started with this one because I SWEAR by this mantra every time I shop, purge, or peruse my wardrobe! My mom taught me VERY early that comfortable and cute can go hand and hand… and I took that thing and ran a marathon with it!

Regardless if it’s something I would typically wear or not, I don’t move forward in wearing anything unless I’m comfortable in it.  And by “comfortable”, I mean comfortable visually, in fit, and in confidence. I remember shopping for my wedding dress and trying on looks that had all of these layers of tulle, stitching, beading and other fabrics that made it very hard for me to be great (or sit down!) in. Though they were all beautiful, I knew I didn’t want to drag all of that dress around all night, just because it was beautiful. Even though I STAY cute, comfort always win front page in my book, just like my Mommy!


Hit ‘Em With The Switch-Up. 

For as long as I can remember, my mom has ALWAYS changed her hair. Whether it was the style, the color, the texture (Hey Wig!), she made it her business to express her moods through her hairstyles. We are both creatives by nature, so exploring our options through our clothes and hair is always a welcomed task. Most of time it works in our favor because we typically end up with something unique, which is always the goal!

Clearly, we are one in the same on this because I’ll change my hair in a second! I’ve actually surprised myself with my loc journey because I have never committed to a hairstyle this long! And though I love my locs and all that jazz, I’m starting to get a bit bored. Soooo, you’ll just have to stick around to see what I do next! 😉


Your Smile Is Your Best Accessory.

As a young girl, I learned that your smile truly is the best accessory.

In my past, I’ve endured some things that haven’t felt the best to me, but (as I learned later on!) were the best FOR me.  Sure, I could walk around all day looking tight and irritated at the things that happened, but my mom taught me at early that your smile is and will always be the best accessory that you could EVER wear! She even shared with me that, sometimes, your smile is your saving grace, as it’s the only visual that represents hope in the midst of a storm.  This lesson is confirmed in one of my favorite songs:

I smile, even though I hurt see I smil#ha
I know God is working so I smile
Even though I’ve been here for a while
I smile, smile
It’s so hard to look up when you been down
Sure would hate to see you give up now
You look so much better when you smile, so smile!

Thank you, Mom, for preparing me for slayage, in both life and style – You’re the, girl!  Image result for heart emoji

Now tell us… 

What YOUR favorite life or style lesson that your Mom taught you? Share below and let us know! 

Until the next time, live F.A.B with no regrets!

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